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Writing your personal ad can be one of the hardest
parts of beginning your online dating adventure. Here are some tips to get you
started in the right direction!
How do you describe yourself?
Think about this for a few minutes. How many times do you get a chance to tell
someone your best points? Before you begin writing your personal ad, have a
look at what others have written. Look for any ads that stand out and catch
your eye. If something catches your eye, it will probably catch the eye of someone
that has something in common with you! You never get a second chance to make
a first impression. Also, keep in mind that you should be yourself. Let them
know the real you!
Be honest!
Be honest about who you are, in text and photo. You are much more likely
to meet someone you will be happy with in the long run if you are completely
honest from the beginning.
Use an up to date picture
Don't use a picture from 1969, just because you had more hair!
Reveal something fun, personal, or unique about yourself.
Let who you are shine through! Use specific descriptive phrases or words, especially
concerning personality. Rather than saying, "I am looking for someone with
a good sense of humor," tell them what makes you laugh.
Details are important.
Details are not boring. You might think that saying "I enjoy movies"
is better than listing which movies you really enjoy. On the contrary, a LOT
of people enjoy movies but only some of those people enjoy the same movies that
you do. Furthermore, the types of movies you like reveal your personality and
lifestyle.
Don't be afraid to speak your mind.
Don't be shy about expressing some of your more "drastic"
views. They may not please everyone, but it will save you the time of dealing
with people who have fundamental differences with you. Smile, with your words
and your picture. Your happiness is attractive!
Describe yourself first, then describe what you are looking for in
a mate.
People are interested in reading about your qualities and interests.
If you match what they are looking for, they will keep reading. However, don't
be too picky. Are you looking for real love? Companionship? Someone to date
while you finish school? Be honest about what you're after--better now than
later.
Don't reveal everything.
Your phone number and address are better left for a time when you really know
the person.
Keep your Personal updated.
Gone from blonde to brunette? Time for a new picture! Also, if your
interests change, let the world know, so you can find what you're looking for.
Now that we've covered some points to address when
writing about yourself, lets look at some things to keep in mind when looking
for another person.
Be honest here too.
Make your intentions clear.
Be open-minded.
Judging a book by its cover only gives you part of the story.
Keep your eyes opened.
Dating websites are home to literally thousands of people. No need
to fall for the first one you see.
Search "keywords" that interest you. Do you like football? Type in
football. You'll be surprised by how many others share your interests...and
it's a great ice-breaker too!
E-mail is fun to receive.
The more you write, the more you'll receive -- the pickier you can
be.
* Remember the Golden Rule: Treat others the way you want to
be treated. If you don't want to be judged only on your looks, don't pick others
just on looks. When you get email in response to your Personal, try to respond,
even if just to say "Thanks." Politeness is always a good thing.
Don't be afraid to look outside of your geographical region.
There are plenty of people out there who are willing to have a long
distance relationship!
Love is a numbers game - increase your odds by writing a number of
people.
Respond to any interesting piece of mail. You never know how it may turn out!
Give members time to get up the nerve to respond to your mail before you write
again.
Go back for second looks at a "maybe."
Perhaps they've updated a photo or added a new detail that's intriguing.
And most importantly, make sure you read all the reviews and user comments
about any dating website you are considering at Dating-Website-Reviews.com!!
Good luck in your search!!
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