SEIZE THE MOMENT!
By Brenda Ross

Zack writes in and informs me that there is a casual dance at his high school this Saturday night. He asks if it would it be a good place to go to try to meet girls or would he just be the guy standing alone in the corner the whole night? Should he go?

When I was in high school I was really really really shy. (I actually won the award for shyest person in my senior class, and when they called me to go up on stage to get it, I ran out of the auditorium, and everyone laughed. Great bunch of kids I went to school with... Let's torture the shy kid. ) Anyway...

There was no way I would ever get out there and dance, but... I knew that if I stayed home, I'd just hate myself. So I'd go. I might sit in the bleachers and hang out, pretending to have a great time, but hey, at least I was there. It's funny when you're shy, you think that if you get up to dance, that everyone will be staring at you. In my case, it would have probably been true, though, because I couldn't dance worth a damn. But I digress...

Now, years later... <insert Wayne's World sound effects and blurry visuals with waving hands> I got over myself, and I really love to dance.

So... a few weeks ago I wanted to go do just that, so I called up some friends and met them in Hollywood, at a low key but super fun place I like to go on occasion. Now I don't need a partner to dance, in fact, I could care less. To me, dancing is a free spirit sort of thing, so I'll just go out there by myself and have fun.

I notice... at this club a few weeks ago, that there are a bunch of random guys just hanging out by all the bars... just standing there, watching everyone else dance (the women, I'm sure) but not making one move towards any kind of connection or conversation. If I walked by, they'd just stare. Its like they're there, but they're not there. I couldn't understand why they would even be there, you know? I think a dance club is a great place to meet women, because it's so energetic and tribal. Call me practical.

And so now that I think about it, I'm guessing that there are at least
five types of men to be found at a dance club.

1. The guy who's with his girlfriend.
2. The guy who's with his boyfriend.
3. The bouncer/bartender.
4. The guy who stands around all night by the bar like a shadow in a petrified forest.
5. The guy who gets out there, dances near me, acts like a fool to make me laugh, strikes up a conversation with me, and as a result, will more than likely get my number.

So which one are you? And which one do you want to be?